Dating a european man

I also don’t think it can be explained by French women simply not finding American men attractive.When my French begins to slip and my American accent shines through, that’s the time I get the most bites from French women.While an accent is a pretty superficial reason to go on a date, at the time it seemed as legitimate of a reason as any.

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Add in the fact that they can cook, and American men might as well throw in the towel now.

Of course, it’s not just blind adoration and romanticization that makes the French man / American woman relationship the preferred dynamic.

Often though, it’s the other way around, where I’m the one who thinks the evening went well when my date probably wished to never to see me again.

Take, for instance, the time I went to Frenchie Bar à Vins with a girl from Paris.

I’ve never done it before, and I’d always imagined you all to be,” she paused, realizing she was about to paint broad strokes of offensiveness…“Well, crass, rude, and perhaps a bit lazy.” Compare those three expectations to the ones American women have of French men, and it’s apparent that the deck is stacked against the boys back home.

I’ve had meaningful relationships while in Paris, but they’ve been exclusively with American women (and one Brit).

Think what you wish, but after conversations with other American men and upon reflecting on my own dates, I’ve found that the American man / French woman relationship doesn’t often work for a very simple reason: expectations.

One of the most obvious examples is when a French date gave me this particularly harsh semi-compliment: “It’s so odd spending time with an American.

There is indeed a reason, which I will get to shortly, but in order to make sense of it let’s first think about how transatlantic dating works in the other direction.

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