dating for lone parents - Dating rules parents have

Yep, it gets complicated FOR SURE, why start it so young??

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I have a big sign in my home that reads, “You are loved no matter what.” Even if they choose other than my expectations, my love will never diminish for them.

I know that it’s inevitable that with this fun adventure of dating comes heartbreak, too. My heart got broken, even when I did the breaking up, because I was saying goodbye to someone I truly cared about, just didn’t feel it “working.” It’s hard, but so important to gain experience, and shape decisions for adulthood.

I recognize that a lot of people in this world disagree, but I’m grateful I was raised with this, and I hope my children will do the same.

Either way, I will love and support, and encourage them every step of the way.

I still feel like a teen, and having had the opportunity to teach teens last year and this year in a Bible study class, they have become my favorite people to hang out with. Our family rule is that dating starts at the age of 16. Couples can form as early as elementary school, and though it’s fairly innocent at that age, and definitely not considered “dating” in my mind, it’s one of the things that as parents we can be supportive of it, on the fence, or against it.

I’m so excited to start sharing more thoughts on parenting teens, in a monthly series with a few friends, where they will join me in talking about teen topics, as we share our thoughts/experiences. It’s always been that, they have always known, so that decision was made well in advance. Not sure if it’s because of my chill boys, or because they’ve just always known the family rule. My daughter was “asked out” in 4th grade, and though I thought it was adorable and fairly harmless, she said, “I can’t date til I’m 16” to the boy, and that was that.

It doesn’t have to be serious, or because you are a couple with someone, just GO!

Yes, it’s scary and awkward and complicated at times, but it’s so important for growth and learning, and stepping into adulthood!

I can’t wait to meet the girls they will bring home, and get to know them, and watch how they shape my boys into men with their relationships.

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